Yeah the difference is real, my barber did the same thing with a patch test and I was sold. I've had good luck with plain jojoba from Trader Joe's, like $8, and it doesn't smell like anything. Just make sure you're not using too much or your beard looks greasy all day.

That "slow walk to the left" is the tell every time, and good on you for actually watching the video instead of arguing with the rigger. What fixed it for me was forcing a verbal callout: boom up, load clears the truck, THEN swing. Say it out loud in the cab even if nobody hears it. Sounds dumb but your hands follow your mouth after a few weeks. Other thing that helped was slowing my hoist down on the pick, not the swing. When the load comes up slow and clean, there's nothing to fight, so you stop wanting to lead it. The lead comes from trying to beat the load up to the roof, and that's a hurry problem, not a skill problem. I also ran a few practice picks in the yard with a water tote where I made myself count one Mississippi after the load cleared before I touched the swing. Boring as hell but it rewires you. Fourteen years is a long groove to get out of, so expect it to feel wrong for a month before it feels right.